Finding Our Place in the Sun...

MKHKKH will be moving to Arizona. A friend of mine told me, When God opens a door, no man can close it and where He shuts a door, He opens a window. I have been clinging to this sentiment the last few months. These huge life decisions are so incredibly hard and it seems you will never know if it was the right choice until all the cards are played and even then you will never know the full ramification if you had stayed. If only we had a crystal ball. God has given us an incredible opportunity but it requires giving up all we know and love and living in faith.

We currently live in suburban paradise. I have often joked that I keep waiting for the glass slipper to break. I think the clock has officially struck twelve. Our home is teaming with neighborhood friends and the kids are all happy and thriving. We adore their school and their teachers. We have developed close relationships with friends down the street and friends that we have been with since medical school. All of my family is here allowing the kids a special bond with my parents, their cousins, and aunts and uncles. We are a very tight knit family. We are surrounded by a loving network of friends and family. To top it off, we have the house of our dreams. It really is a happy place at this point in our lives. However, things at Max’s work have not been so cheerie. For as magical and storybook as life is at home he has more of a Star Wars scene going with daily battles against evil. So when the Mayo Clinic called him out of the blue and asked him to apply for a job, it seemed we should at least walk through the door. That is when the divine wheels began turning and the tidal wave of change began to ensue.

I knew the day the Department Chair called that we would be moving and Max would get the job. Two interviews and 3 months later, it was as I knew it would be. The job is practically tailor made for Max. It is everything he has been trying to achieve here all wrapped up on a platter. It was remarkable how much the job fit Max’s skills and talents and how Max has subscribed to the Mayo philosophy without ever knowing it existed. I have teased him that he will have to drink the Mayo kool-aid. He is ready for an IV injection! :) While the offer seemed a slam-dunk, it required an excruciating choice and many stars to align.

We had four major issues with moving. We would have to leave my family. We would have to change the kids’ school, after all we chose this house in part because of the great school, and the kids finally have settled in after moving just 2 years ago. We would have to sell our 2 houses in the worse market since the depression without putting us into financial ruin.

Shortly after Max’s first interview, we got a letter in the mail notifying us that the district was changing the boundary lines and the kids would have to go to a different school next fall. While some of Hailey’s best friends are our neighbors, Karlie’s is not in our neighborhood and they would be separated. The kids would have to move to a school not quite as good and we would not have the same beloved teachers. This was a tally mark in the Mayo column. If the kids were going to have to change schools anyway, starting over in Scottsdale wouldn’t be that much harder. Plus the schools in Scottsdale are excellent so we know they would get a great education.

Two weeks later our renter that we are very fond of sent us letter asking if she could get out of the lease in April instead of August because she needed to move back to Texas to be with her sick daughter. Again it seemed another sign that we should sell the baby house. We put it on the market and it is due to close in two weeks. In a time when many houses sit for months it is really remarkable that it sold so fast. Another tally for Mayo.

Our house was another MAJOR issue. The entire neighborhood is having problems with expansive soils and the builder has elected to repair the homes one by one. We were not scheduled to even have our engineer assessment until this June. Once I told the builder of our situation, they immediately moved us up to November. Many of the homes have needed a complete underpinning with repairs taking months as they dig up the foundation under the home and re-drill the monopost support. It would be impossible to sell a home in this state and very difficult to sell it even after the work was completed. The builder determined our soil was done moving and that it was a finishing issue in the basement more than an actual structural defect. The repair was scheduled for the end of March and only 4 days of work were needed instead of months as many of our neighbors had. We were planning on putting the house on the market at the beginning of April. Once again it seemed we were being pushed to go.

Then the most amazing thing happened. A guy called Max and said, “I am the guy that wants to buy your house!” My Dad travels for his job and works with a man that lives in West Virginia. He and his family wanted to move back to Colorado and had been looking at homes on the internet one block east of our house the day before my Dad talked to him. My Dad jokingly said, “You should buy my daughter’s house.” We sent pictures and they were hooked. They even offered to put an offer in before they saw it. As fate would have it, they were already scheduled to come to Colorado for a wedding the first weekend in April. The builder literally finished and cleaned up the repair one hour before the buyers arrived to see the house. They loved it and we were under contract. They are a wonderful, Christian family with four kids. Letting go of our house has been painful, but we are consoled that such a great family will be taking over. We close tomorrow. The buyers were kind enough to allow us to rent back for a month so the kids could finish school. We were just swept away by all the things that continued to fall in place for Max to take the job at the Mayo.

The only thing He hasn’t fixed is leaving my family. Family is everything to us. I can’t even imagine life without them. I have never lived more than an hour away from my parents. My Mom and sisters are my best friends. I am heartbroken that the kids won’t have at least one set of grandparents in their daily lives and that they won’t grow up with their cousins. Things happened so fast we didn’t really have time to realize all we are sacrificing here. We are so happy; can it be as good or better there? We are trusting in His plan and taking a leap of faith. Had we had even one snag, I think we would have stayed put. But everything fell into place so effortlessly that it was almost like we didn’t have a choice. We couldn’t stop the wheels. I can’t put on the happy face and say I am happy or excited to go or even look forward to the adventure. Who would want to move to the death desert where it is going to be 100 plus degrees all summer? I am struggling to understand why the real estate is so expensive there. Coming from the beautiful Rocky Mountains, it is a hard pill to swallow. All I can do is trust that He has great things in store. Things I can’t possibly imagine. Like a climate change that will bring rain and life to the dessert. LOL

Please pray for us as this will be a most difficult time. We have yet to find a home in AZ. In 30 days we are homeless. We will be leaving a extensive network of family and friends and will be all alone in the barren, burning hot dessert (can you sense my joy?). As the nester and CEO of the family this is pretty hard for me and will be a very hard transition for each of us. Max will be starting a new job at one of the most renowned hospitals in the world (no pressure) and will be feeling the burden of uprooting his family. The kids will be navigating a summer without friends or family and I will be trying to keep everyone safe while we have pool in the backyard with three kids that can’t swim! We know our love with carry us through this time and we hope you will stick with us through the ups and the downs as we learn to become Arizonans and find our place in the sun.

12 comments:

Courtney said...

You gave me chills reading your post. Of course we will be with you through this journey! Call me anytime to vent, laugh, cry, or bask in the sun. :) Praying for all of you. I know you will find peace and happiness in this monumental adventure. We love you!

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Lacey said...

You made me cry. I can feel what you are going through. I can sympathize as we were a week away from Movers when we decided to stay. I know your sadness. But I also know that you are an incredible woman. An incredible mother. And obviously an incredible wife. You guys will have no problems meeting friends. I think one day you will look back and see why this was the best move you ever made. It definitely was God driven, so it is the right thing. My heart breaks for you as you say goodbye, but I am sure the quality time with your family during visits will be some of the best memories you have with them. Love you Katie!!

Heather said...

Katie,

Definitely feel your pain on this one! Wish I had some words of wisdom. It is hard. It will get easier. E-mail if you want to chat.

Heather

MandM said...

wow, I'm typing as tears are running down my cheek. I can't imagine leaving family either. What an incredibly difficult decision. It seems that all the pieces fell into place for you though. What an incredible opportunity for Max, and just think when Hank starts school maybe you could go to work as a nurse at the clinic :) I hope your transition is a peaceful one. Sorry to hear your leaving, but I'm sure Uncle Snork will be soon to follow ;)

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T. Russell said...

Wow! Big changes! It is obvious by your post that God is in this change 100%. Adventure isn't always full of joy at the beginning but you guys will all adjust. It's so nice that your kiddos will be able to finish school before you move. You're right, Scottsdale does have AMAZING schools! My parents don't live close either and it is hard sometimes to not have that support and relationship whenever I want it or could use it, but God is always there and will get your through those hard times when you and the kids are missing them like crazy. You are an amazing mom, wife, and woman and this adventure will be full of God's blessings because you are choosing to walk it by faith. I will be praying for the perfect home for your family and a smooth transition for all. Thanks for sharing your journey!

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